Words are powerful things. They can be used to move mountains or bring down empires. They can be used to build or destroy. Here are 4 ways you can be a more positive communicator:
1) REINFORCE THE GOOD
It is of great benefit to reinforce the good while bridling the bad. [Tweet this]Even the proudest person is the hardest on himself. People don't need us to add to their voices of negativity, instead, reinforce and encourage the good and positive in others. In doing so, our confidence grows and we'll gain an ally for life.
2) STOP COMPLAINING & BE GRATEFUL
Complaining is like mental pollution. It brings with it the stink of bad vibes and the smoke of negative energy. Negative thoughts and complaints are like rabbits, you only need a few in order for them to multiply and get out of control. There is no situation so bad that complaining won't make it worse. Instead of complaining, focus on what you have to be grateful for. When we are so intent on complaining about the smudges and fingerprints on our glasses it is easy to miss the beautiful sunrise beyond the lenses.
There is no situation so bad that complaining won't make it worse. [Tweet this]
3) SPEAK UP & OUT WITHOUT SPEAKING DOWN
The world isn't perfect. There are countless problems and issues that need to be addressed and brought into light. It would be wise to focus on solving problems and not on changing people.
No matter how much we do know, we do not know everything. [Tweet this]In speaking down about people, we may find ourselves making and spreading false assumptions about the very individuals who could be key in making things better and are doing the best with what they've been given. It is vital that we speak up and speak out while doing all we can, but never speak down in the process.
4) SOMETIMES BE SILENT
The natural man in all of us likes to be right. Sometimes we can become frustrated when we know we are right and are trying to convince others by arguing our point. Just a little bit of contention can easily turn into bashing, taunting, and demeaning. In these arguments, no one really wins.
If you know you are right, the proof will eventually come out.[Tweet this]In times of stress in our lives, we would be wise to say nothing or be silent rather than wasting our energy to fight a doomed battle.
Use your words wisely. Don't fall into the traps of complaining, criticizing, gossiping, or belittling. Our words will either open doors for opportunities or slam ones that were previously already open.
How have words positively affected you in your life?
Words are super powerful! When my husband I got married we faced some not so nice criticisms from my now mother in law because she just wasn't ready to let her son go. I remember reminding him often that it wasn't what he said but how he said it that made the biggest difference. He followed that advice and we were able to get to the real root of the problem instead of ruining a very important relationship.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you were able to help him do that. Family relationships are so important and too many are ruined because of silly misunderstandings or arguments.
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